the life that looked successful.
Six years in the US Army. A deployment to Baghdad. A position on the personal staff of the Chief of Staff of the United States Army at the Pentagon. Eighteen years of corporate leadership in tech and manufacturing. A career that, from the outside,
looked like it was working.
And it was.
But it was built on a foundation I had never examined. I was running on survival mode so long I did not know what it felt like to stop. I managed everything, handled everything, and rarely stopped long enough to ask what I actually needed.
That is what performing "fine" actually costs.
my story
a little girl on a floor in oklahoma who believed she did not matter.
I spent part of my childhood in and out of foster care while my mother was deemed unfit to raise me. I lived with my
father and grandmother, both of whom struggled with alcoholism. Along the way I experienced verbal, physical, and sexual abuse that left me questioning my worth for decades.
And yet.
I became the first person in my family to graduate from college. I joined the Army my senior year of high school and never looked back.
But here is what nobody tells you about survival. It is an incredible tool for getting through and it is a terrible foundation for actually living. Every pattern I had been living, the overwork, the control, the inability to ask for help, the relentless drive, traced back to one belief I had formed before I was old enough to question it.
I am not important enough to matter.
That was not a fact. It was a belief that other people placed on a little girl before she had the words to refuse it.
what was underneath
the most radical thing i ever did was get curious about myself.
the turning point
It started with therapy, then more therapy. Three rounds of EMDR, reiki, shamanic work. Not because I was broken, because I was finally committed to finding the thing I could not see. And what I found was this.
Every pattern I had been living traced back to a belief I had formed before I was old enough to question it. Seeing it clearly did not fix everything overnight. But it gave me something I had never had before.
A choice.
I have spent ten years doing this work, I am still doing it. And that ongoing commitment is what I bring to every stage I stand on and every client I work with. The work is not a finish line. It is the most important practice of your life.
And it starts with one honest moment of stillness.
Healing through motherhood
Foster kid turned army veteran, corporate leader, & business owner
First-generation college graduate
about me
Applying those insights in real life changed everything. Today I help other women recognize their own patterns and lead themselves differently.
integration
I became the first in my family to graduate college, served in the military, worked at the Pentagon, and built a successful career and businesses.
Achievement
Years of therapy and reflection helped me recognize the patterns shaping my reactions, relationships, and decisions.
awareness & mindset
My early years were marked by instability, foster care, and environments shaped by addiction and abuse. Those experiences built resilience but also deeply influenced how I viewed myself and the world. I learned how to adapt and move forward even when life felt chaotic.
Survival
